You need to have faith in yourself. Be brave and take risks. You don’t have to have it all figured out to move forward.

Roy T. Bennett

Last week was pretty intense! I am grateful for all the people who reached out to me. My life may not be what I imagined it would be and I may be feeling quite down now, but I have to also believe that I have what it takes to raise my vibrations and turn this into a life lesson! As my husband and I discuss at great lengths the realities of our marriage, we are finding that our biggest problem was communication. We just never learned how to do it… until now apparently.

Communication is such a common enough problem in marriages, it doesn’t even seem worth mentioning. What is interesting to me, and where I feel I can get the most learning is something he mentioned the other night. The flaw he brought up to me is not a new one, I have been aware of it since 7th grade when a crush of mine told me over the phone that I have this. I’m now 40 and I still struggle with it.

The flaw is that I have low self-esteem. Low self-esteem comes out in so many unnoticed ways and although I have been trying to change how I view myself, I still have so far to go! In the past, I felt physically unattractive, unworthy, I was self-deprecating. Now, I know that I am not ugly on the outside but I still struggle with feelings of unworthiness.

Low self-esteem comes out in other ways as well. The language I use can often be more negative than positive. I may find it easier to be an inspiration and a positive ray of light for others, but I treat myself less than awesome. If I believe that I create my reality with my intentions, that my words create the energy that creates my reality, then I need to pay closer attention to the words I am using and make sure that in all cases, I am being as loving to myself as I can be to others.

It’s time I learned to have complete confidence in myself!

My guess is the best thing to do is to fake it! I will be aware of the language that I am using and give myself an inspiration upgrade! When I notice negativity and all the language of low self-worth, I must stop, reboot, and upgrade! Then I will stop, internalize the change and really let it sink in energeticly.

In addition to that, I like to work with mantras! My current mantra is,

I am free from all attachments and I am realizing my true power as I step bravely and boldly into my best possible future!

I just love it! I have to use it several times a day, though, because I say it to myself when I am feeling particularly sad and defeated. Now I need a mantra for this new challenge! I would love and greatly appreciate if you would share what, if any, are your mantras!