Lately, it seems like so many of my people are facing the realization that they have been looking for love in all the wrong places. They’ve been needing parents to love them in a very specific way as proof that they are worthy. They’ve been placing faith in broken-down lovers who are unable to show them what they’re worth. Over and over again they choose people in the hopes that those people will fulfill a hungry need to be loved to perfection.

The sad reality is that no one outside of yourself can fill that love void. And while many of us may know this in theory, and a few of us may believe we practice this, I am not so certain we have reached even adequate levels of self-love.

This likely won’t be the last time I write about self-love

I’ve been experimenting with falling in love with myself. It seems extreme and downright silly, doesn’t it? But the thing is, pursuing this challenge has opened my eyes to my own amazing self! I’m able to notice things about myself with a beautiful sense of tenderness and joy! For example, with fresh awareness, I am watching what my body is actually capable of. Like the strength it develops with every workout or the way it can handle emotions if I allow it and trust it, or even its wild sensuality. These are just a few examples.

I realize that I am stepping into a new romantic relationship with myself. I notice I walk with more confidence, I feel beautiful, and other people have begun to comment on how I seem to shine! Would they be able to recognize that shine if I hadn’t seen it in myself first?

Listen, if you are reading this, and you are feeling this, please share your personal experience! Does it line up with mine? Have you experienced something different? What have you learned?

Until next time…